Stages&Elements of "Love"
March 11, 2009
Types/Stages of Love: Lust and Attraction
There are three distinct types or stages of “love”:
- Lust, or erotic passion
- Attraction, or romantic passion
- Attachment, or commitment
Lust
When we’re teenagers, just after puberty, estrogen and testosterone become active in our bodies for the first time and create the desire to experience “love.” These desires, a.k.a. lust, play a big role both during puberty and throughout our lives. According to an article by Lisa Diamond, entitled “Love and Sexual Desire” (Current Directions in Psychological Science, vol 13 no. 3), lust and romantic love are two different things caused by different underlying substrates. Lust evolved for the purpose of sexual mating, while romantic love evolved because of the need for infant/child bonding. So even though we often experience lust for our romantic partner, sometimes we don’t — and that’s okay. Or, maybe we do, but we also lust after someone else. According to Dr. Diamond, that’s normal.
Sexologist John Money draws the line between love and lust in this way: “Love exists above the belt, lust below. Love is lyrical. Lust is lewd.”
Pheromones, looks and our own learned predispositions for what we look for in a mate play an important role in whom we lust after, as well. Without lust, we might never find that special someone. But, while lust keeps us “looking around,” it is our desire for romance that leads us to attraction.
Attraction
While the initial feelings may (or may not) come from lust, what happens next — if the relationship is to progress — is attraction. When attraction, or romantic passion, comes into play, we often lose our ability to think rationally — at least when it comes to the object of our attraction. The old saying “love is blind” is really accurate in this stage. We are often oblivious to any flaws our partner might have. We idealize them and can’t get them off our minds. This overwhelming preoccupation and drive is part of our biology. We’ll go deeper into the chemicals involved in attraction in The Chemistry of Love.
In this stage, couples spend many hours getting to know each other. If this attraction remains strong and is felt by both of them, then they usually enter the third stage: attachment.
KILLERLOVE
March 9, 2009I have a two heartaches story to share.It was a true happened.There is a guy who fall out of love he comitted suicide because of too much heartaches.That guy has a “GF” which he love more than his own life,not knowing that the girl he love have another “BF” aside him.But you can’t keep secrets forever.The time come for truth to explode when the guy know about that secret he text his “GF” asking if where he got wrong but the girl simply says”I DONT LOVE YOU ANYMORE” .The guy felt to much pain and depression,so he get a rope and comitt a suicide.To mush love could be dangerous and with that happining I know that “GILRS ARE SHIT”.
The other story is about unforgiven love.Theres a lovers that are apart from its other.The family of the guy didnt like the girl for his son but the guy was so inlove with a girl.It was their monthsary so the guy ask permission from his father to go out together with his “GF”but his father didnt give permission to him.Because of to much frustration he get a rope and comitt a suicide,when the girl know the news she did the same she get the blade and cut his pulse.Thats how amazing,powerful thier love for each other.
Ang sarap mainlove diba kaso nga lang pag nawala sya nakakamatay diba!
Love can Kill!!!
Careful when you fall in “love” Theres a danger in loving somebody to much!!!!!!!!
HEARTACHES22-1 What is heartahes?
It is the result of being broken hearted when he or she doesnt succeed of enviding ones heart.It brings to much pressure in heart and also in mind.I was also experience a state of being a broken hearted,as a result i always get angry even in a small things.I was so disapointed with myself i,I felt too small ,Ive lost self confidence that time.But as the days past the heartaches slowly lasen, with the help of metting new people and falling for someone again. With that experiennce ive learn how to play the game of love,I learn how to control feelings and to ignore it.I think those ways will be work but i got wrong concept ignoring your own feelings is like making your own heartaches.As of now I afraid to fall in love again because one heartaches is enough to be write inthe book of my life.
GOODLUCK ‘N LOVE!
i do(cherish you)
March 5, 2009
My wedding song sana!
All I am, all I’ll be
Everything in this world
All that I’ll ever need
Is in your eyes
Shining at me
When you smile I can feel
All my passion unfolding
Your hand brushes mine
And a thousand sensations
Seduce me ’cause I
Chorus
I do cherish you
For the rest of my life
You don’t have to think twice
I will love you still
>From the depths of my soul
It’s beyond my control
I’ve waited so long to say this to you
If you’re asking do I love you this much
I do
In my world, before you
I lived outside my emotions
Didn’t know where I was going
‘Till that day I found you
How you opened my life
To a new paradise
In a world torn by change
Still with all my heart
‘Till my dying day
Chorus
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